1st birthday party
Note: These are all my observations. Let me know if they are wrong and I will be happy if it is wrong.
I was invited to two 1st birthday parties last year. While I am always excited to see the kids I felt there was something really wrong with the way it was conducted. The birthday parties I have attended were happened in small marriage halls with the speakers blaring all the way. The people who all attended were office colleagues of the parents. It’s a complete joyous occasion for everyone, we think. But not, I guess.
The kid who is the star of the occasion suffers from various things. First, how small or big the hall maybe it’s a new place to kid and for sure he/she can’t get accustomed to it. Second, most of the people who present in the function were completely unknown to the kid. They will like to play with him/her but surely it will cause discomfort to kid. And you can’t blame the people who like to play with the little kid. Thirdly, the loud music and closed room is not a combination on which the kid loves to be. Lastly, the number of dresses kids forced to wear. All these factors push them to tears and the whole party goes in kid crying all the way.
While we can’t blame the intentions of the parents here as they want the first birthday to be a memorable one with their friends around and the pictures clicked on that day serves as wonderful memory for the kid when grows on. I feel a subdued birthday party being held in one’s home will be better than being held in party halls as kids are familiar with the place and also calling only a selected number of people will make the occasion better. Party halls and more people can wait till the kid can grow up. As for me people will be happy enough if they are able to see their 1st birthday cake and their parents pictures and won’t be concerned about the people who attended or the hall it held.
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I think parents are more concerned about bragging and bandha (not sure what the English equivalent word is 🙂 ) than the happiness of the kid. It’s quite obvious.
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kanagu: Might be.. but I think that is not the sole reason…
My exact views and we didn’t have a birthday party for the boy till he was 4 and that too only close friends were around us.
kanagu: Thats great Saks… 🙂 🙂 The party just disturbs the kid..
Now that the boy has grown up he is very clear about the fact that he wants only his friends to be present and honestly that makes it very easy for me too coz all I have to do is keep an eye over the brats and don’t have to think how to please the adults who otherwise accompanies their kids
kanagu: Maybe… Samy reading mama’s mind and making her job easier 😀 😀 but looking over bunch of kids isn’t an easy thing for sure…
Sadly this is the reality and this is what happens mostly.. people get more concerned about entertaining their friends rather than indulging the kid.
I totally think the way u do too 😀 Well written Kanagu 🙂
Most of the b’day parties are more for the show off by parents rather than the joy of the kids.. :(.. Well, I’m not saying all but most of them do for that reason only..
// As for me people will be happy enough if they are able to see their 1st birthday cake and their parents pictures and won’t be concerned about the people who attended or the hall it held.//
Can’t agree more.. Well written.. 🙂
My relative’s baby was crying throughout the function. What you say is right. She would have preferred to sleep at home peacefully!
good observation! i guess parents do this for society…otherwise its an individual’s decision. My first niece had her first birthday party at a reserved tables in restaurant setting…where she slept peacefully in her mother’s arms while adults were busy drinking!
my second niece had birthday party at home itself!! all of us ate and drank and played with her..and we all slept on time!
so when u giving first birthday party??:)
I feel a subdued birthday party being held in one’s home will be better than being held in party halls as kids are familiar with the place and also calling only a selected number of people will make the occasion better.
I so agree! Sigh! Whatever happened to small happy cosy get-togethers? Today it’s a matter of showing off as which 1st bday party was the best 😦
The first birthday party of my son was mostly done in our hall which was removed of all sofa’s and water was filled in and he had a ball… we have a lot of kids who come home for tutions to my mom who were pretty much attached to my son and they all were there to play and make noise in his party 🙂 he enjoyed it pretty much… in the evening we all went to a garden restaurant with all friends and it was good to let him play on the swings and lawn whilst we all ate 🙂
The one most important thing about a first birthday party is to ensure you have enough time for the lil one and give him enough space and time… dont rush him and dont make him cry !
good observation!
and I agree with you.. 🙂
very true observation!
Hi Kanagu! How have you been ? 🙂
and I absolutely agree with the fact that 1st birthday should always be with near and dear ones………..Delhiites are in a habit of going over the top………..its a common practice here 🙂 But why to victimise the poor kid with so much of chaos?
And that is exactly the reason why I am not having any party for my little one who will be one tomorrow. Only us and loads of fun, mess, cake, balloons and lots of pictures 🙂 I will certainly write a post on it and just hope that my little one enjoys it!
Agreed…to you 100%..
Thank you 🙂 Eduvum theriyama adigama pesuren nu solliduveengalo nu nenachen 😀
I made this mistake with my daughter;s first birthday party. It was not showing off or anything, just wanted to celebrate with close friends (who happen to be from work), and then the invitation list started ballooning because we didn’t want to hurt people’s feelings and then it turned out to be a regular tamasha.
This time for my son, we are just calling close family ONLY…